Traveling for Change

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.” Charles Darwin

When I was nineteen I went to Mexico for a year. I thought I would learn a little Spanish and return home the same person I was before. But living overseas changes the traveler and I returned home a different person.

I lived with the Lorenzo family. Senor and Senora Lorenzo were school teachers. They worked hard all week but every weekend there was a party to attend. There were weddings, Quinceanera and family parties. When the music started, grandparents, parents and children all danced together. And they often danced until 3 am. When the children were tired, the parents picked them up and continued dancing while the children dozed on their shoulders. For the Lorenzos, any celebration was an excuse to dance. I couldn’t imagine my family in America dancing together for any reason.

The first words I learned in Spanish were cantar, bailar, disfrutar, Sing, dance, enjoy. And I learned to celebrate life with abandon.

Next I went to live in France and I learned to enjoy the simplicity of eating and conversing with others. I learned to never talk about politics or anything upsetting at the table. The French believe it’s healthy to only talk about pleasant things while eating. Consequently, they spend an extraordinary amount of time talking about food and its preparation. Not too surprising, the first words I learned in French were les miette or bread crumbs and the names of various kitchen utensils.

In Japan, I learned the grace of living in a crowd. The first words I learned were Sumimasen, Gomen nasai, Arigato Gozaimasu. Excuse me. I’m sorry. Thank you. And eventually I found the stillness within, necessary for being at peace amid the chaos of Tokyo.

When I finally moved back to American soil, I chose Hawaii, the most exotic state I could think of. At first, personal transformation happened much more slowly in the familiar American setting.
But Hawaii has a generous spirit and it is here that I learned about courage. Not just the courage to take my young daughter and move to a state where I knew no one, but the courage to find true happiness by joyfully anticipating change.

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The Opposite of Victim is Victorious

A Hawaiian healer once asked me, “Are you going to let the cruelty of the past kill you?”
“No, of course not,” I replied.
She smiled. “It happens every day. People allow their bad memories and past negative beliefs to destroy them. But think about this, the past has nothing to do with the present and even less to do with the future. Leave your past behind you where it belongs.”
Dare to be courageous.
Dare to be fulfilled.
The opposite of victim is Victorious.

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Creativity, the Delicious Dream

I’m writing a new book on creativity. Not sure why I’m doing this right now since I have several novels just waiting to be published, but creativity is a subject that is very dear to my heart and one that I have been thinking about most of my life. I was an unusually creative child. My teachers labeled me, ‘the most creative child they had ever seen.’ (I think all children are the most creative I have ever seen) My professors urged me to do nothing but write, and not to write for publication. They felt it would ruin my creativity. Could be.

But what exactly is creativity? Is it a hard to define, multifaceted way of problem solving? Partially. But to understand creativity we can’t just look at it as an academic problem. Creativity is not just a mental activity. It’s a well-spring, a fountain of emotion and expression. On some level it is deeply spiritual, connecting parts of our experience together in unusual ways. Creativity demands physical response. We must act on it when inspiration strikes. In that way, it’s almost like a physical need. Highly creative people certainly feel that they have a physical need to create. This need is so strong that it ranks right up there with the physical drive to eat and sleep and have sex and sometimes supersedes all of those.

I just found this definition on the net: ‘Sadness is the wellspring of creativity.’ Well, maybe, but so is happiness, excitement, boredom and the deep stillness of having nothing to do. Creativity can come from every aspect of our lives and just as there is no easy definition of creativity, there is no one solution to the problem of how to teach and increase it in our lives and in our society. I can offer one possible reason why there is less creativity in our busy lives. Our lives are too full of stuff going on. Too much time watching TV (don’t have a TV). Too much time on the internet (guilty). Too many endless details and to-do lists (definitely guilty).

Creativity is as complex and multifaceted as life itself. I’ll even go so far as to say that creativity is not quite the same thing for each individual. Our experiences are far too unique to define in only one way. Creativity is a never-ending prism, a labyrinth of endless possibilities. Creativity is a delicious dream from which I never want to awake.

My new novel will be out soon also. It’s called The Wife of John the Baptist.

Here’s the link to Amazon. A portion of the proceeds of the sale of this book will be donated to the DNA Foundation.

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On Becoming Yoda

Like most children, my daughter is always asking for things: my help, a new book, or my permission to do this or that. But my daughter’s latest request is for me to live to be 130 years old. The reason for this is that she is planning to live to a ripe old age and she wants us both to die on the same day. “Then I will never be without you,” she said.

“If I live to be 130 years old, I’ll look just like Yoda! I’ll be three feet tall with three gray hairs across the top of my head,” I complained.

“That’s perfect! You would be so cute as Yoda.”

I groaned. “Well, it might be easier to live to be 130 than to actually become as wise as Yoda.”

“Oh, you can do it.” (My daughter is my biggest fan. Actually, I’m pretty sure that she is my only fan.)

Just to make my daughter happy, I started planning a healthier lifestyle so that I might have a remote chance to live to 130 and I also wondered how someone goes about becoming wise. I thought about it a long time and still had no clue how to acquire true wisdom when my daughter said, “And I want us both to die of laughter.”

And suddenly that seemed like the wisest thing of all, to die of laughter in the company of those you love most. What could be wiser than that?

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The Concubine's Gift by K. Ford K.

The Concubine’s Gift

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Giveaway ends June 29, 2012.

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Much Love to Book Bloggers!!

I’m posting excerpts from some of my recent book blogger reviews. These independent book bloggers are wonderful reviewers who give so generously of their own time to read books and review them. Internet book reviewers along with indie writers are changing the face of modern publishing. The mom and pop independent book stores of yesteryear may be disappearing but I think independent book reviewers are taking their place. I see the internet as a thriving marketplace, much like the bustling and colorful marketplaces I loved to visit when I was traveling in the third world. This online marketplace is full of life and creativity and book bloggers do us all a great service by popularizing the vast creativity of independent books and their writers!

From Bea at Bea Writing
Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I have so many quotes that touched me, but this review could only be so long. It has been a while since I have read a book that had such a well-built and uniformed theme. I found connections and concepts from A Game of Thrones to foot binding. I can say that every woman should read this book and reflect on their life. Is there anything that you need to change and be honest to yourself and others? As Shakespeare says: “to thine own self be true.”

From Natasha at Bit of Dash
A novel that explores sexuality and the contrast between being afraid of sex and embracing it.
Valentine, Nevada is a contrast between the sexually strait laced and those who embrace sex. Prostitution is legal in Nevada in some counties, but it’s still crazy to imagine living in a small, probably rural, town with a brothel in it. The history of the town is fascinating along with the reaction of the citizens. It brings people together and drives them apart in the same stroke. My favorite character was Trinket. She was a wonderfully over the top character.

As you learn more of Blissful Night’s story, you cannot help but feel sorry for her. She never truly got what she wanted and her face powder did not make her truly happy. It was both a blessing and a curse, which is what Bernice discovers as well. Though this story contains a lot of sexually explicit situations, I don’t consider it erotica. This story does a very good job of showing the range of human sexuality and how sex is not something to be afraid of, but is something that should be embraced. I’m glad Bernice got her happy ending.

From Brandy at All the Fun Starts After Dark” title=”All the Fun Starts After Dark” target=”_blank”>All the Fun Starts After Dark
I found this to be a great book, it is very well written and you can visualize the small town of Valentine and feel the emotions that Bernice goes through. I’m grateful to have been given the chance to review this book and hope you read it too! The ending will be bring a tear to your eye and make you smile at Bernice’s conniving plan.

From Sarah at Dream World Books” title=”Dream World Books” target=”_blank”>Dream World Books
The concept of The Concubine’s Gift is very original – especially the erotic scenes that Ford describes Bernice having witnessing. Although the erotica scenes are not as explicitly hard-core as those found in most other erotica novels, Ford writes them in a manner that allows readers to use their imaginations to “fill in the blanks.”
I personally loved Bernice’s erotic visions because the sex scenes were indeed very original, bohemian, and one-of-a-kind.

From Monica at Reading with Monie” title=”Reading with Monie” target=”_blank”>Reading with Monie” title=”Reading with Monie” target=”_blank”>Reading with Monie
I was really surprised by how much I loved The Concubine’s Gift. When I agreed to read and review it I thought the book was going to be an erotic novel of which I don’t mind reading from time to time but this was just a sweet romantic story with a little bit of spice.

Even though she is really inhibited Bernice blossoms into becoming more comfortable with her sexuality while helping others. She has a good core of friends that help her manage the visions and what comes with them. I also like the way the problem of the magical powder is resolved. Also there is a side story line that is tied up quite nicely in the end. I highly recommend this one for all contemporary romance lovers.
Reading with Monie
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From JJ Collins
The Concubine’s Gift is an imaginative and intriguingly written book by author K. Ford K. which takes us on a explorative journey of innermost sexual sensibility and fantasy through the lives of Bernice Babbitt and the central characters.The Concubine Gift is a skilfully, well written book with strong character development and many hot-blooded moments throughout drawing in the reader, it is as seductive in its reading, as the scene’s are in writing by K. Ford K. A highly recommended read by K. Ford K.

From John Cox/Paul Dorset at Utterances of an Overcrowded Mind
Imagine a tree-fenced, old country garden that holds a multitude of unknown treasures inside waiting to be discovered. You open the gate and take a peek. Then you step onto the path and take a wander around, peeking behind bushes here and looking into flower beds there. There are just so many little things to see.

From Anna at Seraphim Press
Perfect summer beach reading.

From Dianne at Goodreads
What a delightful and tastefully done sexy book.
Truly enjoyed it.

From Shelley at Goodreads
The Concubine’s Gift is a whimsical tale of a love and sex, and the importance of having both for a happy, fulfilling life.

I also wish to thank the following bloggers for inviting me to do author interviews and guest posts:

Jaidis Shaw at Juniper Grove,
Leslie Lee Sanders,
Abria Mattina,

Much Love to You All!!

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I’m Giving Away Copies of The Concubine’s Gift!!!!

Goodreads Book Giveaway

The Concubine's Gift by K. Ford K.

The Concubine’s Gift

by K. Ford K.

Giveaway ends June 04, 2012.

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New Author Interview from Leslie Lee

Author Leslie Lee was kind enough to interview me for her blog. It turned out very well and I had a blast doing it.

Check out the Author Interview from Leslie Lee!

http://www.leslieleesanders.com/

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The Most Successful Woman in the World

Twenty years ago, I traveled through Nepal with some friends. Even though we were traveling on a shoestring, prices were so low that we were able to hire a car and a driver and tour the entire country. Along one narrow, treacherous stretch of road, men were working to widen the road by blasting away rock from the mountain side. We had to stop while they worked.

As we waited, I looked out the car window and saw a young woman working in the rubble. This caught my interest immediately since I had seen very few women working in any capacity since I arrived in Nepal. Her back was to me and her long skirt and hands were covered with dust. As I watched, she filled a large basket with rocks. After she filled the basket, she took a long strap-like handle attached to the basket and put it around her forehead so that she could carry the basket on her back. I thought to myself, this is the worst job in the world! I was beginning to feel very sorry for this young woman who was doing such back-breaking work, when she turned to face me. I was shocked to see that she looked extremely happy, almost euphoric, as if she was the most successful woman in the world.

I’m not sure why she felt this way.
Maybe she was providing for her children or helping out her parents.
Or perhaps this job gave her the freedom to do things that she wouldn’t have been able to do otherwise.
This got me to thinking about what success really is.

Most Americans feel successful if they have a lot of money in the bank, a beautiful house and a nice car. But I have never seen anyone look as successful as that young Nepalese woman.

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The Magic of Words

In second grade, I wrote my first short story. It consisted of five lines. That night I walked in front of the TV, obstructing my family’s view and announced that when I grew up I was going to be a writer.

My parents were horrified.

“Writers don’t make any money,” they said. “You’d better be a teacher like we are.”

“But words are magic,” I said.

My parents scowled.

Clearly, they didn’t believe in magic.

Looking at my family history, they did have something to base their fears on. My great-uncle was a brilliant inventor and a gifted poet. He lived comfortably on the money his inventions brought in but he was forced to give his poems away for free to the local newspaper. It was the only way he could get them published.

I stopped talking to my parents about writing but my dream of becoming a writer didn’t die. In college I took one creative writing class. It was a very traumatic experience as the students were hyper-critical. At the end of the semester, the professor singled me out and gave me some advice.

“Do nothing in your life but write. But don’t write for publication; they will ruin you. Instead find a benefactor who will support you and your art. Don’t get a job. Don’t get married. And whatever you do, don’t have children. Just write.”

Then he added, “And don’t live your life like a character in a novel or you’ll lead a horrible life.”

With that he left. I was so overwhelmed that I put my head down on the scarred oak desk and cried. For the next ten years I followed none of his advice. Instead I tried to please my parents. I wrote very little. I lived my life like a tragic character in a novel. My professor was right. It was a horrible way to lead a life.

It wasn’t until I went to Japan that the urge to write took over my life. During the day, I taught school and I had so many ideas that I didn’t have time to write them down. I practiced remembering the ideas to write down later when I had time. I could remember twelve ideas in one day but if I had more ideas than that, I lost them forever.

I did nothing at night but write. For the first time in ten years, my life made sense to me. And I remembered the wisdom that I knew instinctively in second grade.

- “Words are magic. With words, we can create unlimited universes. We can do anything, be anything. Words can heal. Words can solve problems. Words can save the world.” -K. Ford K.

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Is Amazon the Next Random House?

Will Amazon take over the publishing industry? I wouldn’t bet against them. Currently Random House is the largest publishing house which means it has more than the lion’s share of control over which books get published and which don’t. But Amazon has taken a big bite out of that share.

Last year alone, 764,448 self-published titles were produced (not all with Amazon). Random House only published 289,729 books. Gains on ebook sales are up 300%. And traditional publishers are still re-releasing some older books rather than take chances on new authors. That means there are plenty of excellent quality books that cannot get published the traditional way. Not so long ago, authors who were tired of rejection put their manuscripts away in a drawer and no one ever read them again. Due to the self-publishing revolution, that has all changed and the book marketplace has become a richer place because of it.

As Amazon and other smaller online publishers take the place of traditional publishers, book bloggers have taken the place of all the corner book stores. They sell titles online instead of on our local streets. And what a thriving community it is. Personally, I can’t wait to see what the next ten years brings.

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